The truth is that they won’t know these things about you, and even if they do know, it doesn’t really equate to a consideration on their part. On your part, you really need to start recognising your truth, and opening your eyes to the behaviour in your environment.
We all know that there are external factors which may influence our behaviours/actions, so how come we don’t seem to have compassion when someone else acts negatively? We automatically start judging, and labelling their personality/character but we ourselves would always request for second chances etc... So why don’t we give others that same respect with their character?
Now I’m not insinuating that we should not take responsibility for our actions; we should definitely consistently reflect on our ways, and how to improve. Which means we don’t have to surround ourselves with behaviours/actions we’re not happy with and nothing is wrong with loving another from afar.